tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-78797130576997581822012-02-16T04:31:14.702-08:00Divorce Daily Dollops is dedicated to helping you cope, better, as you journey through a hurtful breakup, separation, or divorce. We bring you insights, practical advice, and tips in "bite size" portions to fit your busy schedule. "How to get the most out DDD?" Each visit pick a new topic to consider. Focus on it during the day. Each has a special theme along with exercizes, a daily affirmation, and empowerment words. Repeat a DDD as often as needed. See site Archives for all DDD's.Hello!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12684859556290834309noreply@blogger.comBlogger431100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7879713057699758182.post-35320626917795813722009-08-28T14:46:00.000-07:002009-08-29T12:58:12.755-07:00

Best* Books on Military Divorce Made Easy! We've weeded through the book sellers' sites and honed in on the relevant books you're looking for on military divorce - and we've made them easy to select and order!Simply click on the title and you're ready to go. You'll go straight to the order page, which will also contain more information on the book. If you're interested, just click the order

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Best* Books on Child Custody and Divorce Made Easy! We've weeded through the book sellers' sites and honed in on the relevant books you're looking for on Child Custody and Divorce - and we've made them easy to select and order!Simply click on the title and you're ready to go. You'll go straight to the order page, which will also contain more information on the book. If you're interested, just

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Best* Books on Divorce for Women Made Easy! We've weeded through the book sellers' sites and honed in on the relevant books you're looking for on Divorce for Women - and we've made them easy to select and order!Simply click on the title and you're ready to go. You'll go straight to the order page, which will also contain more information on the book. If you're interested, just click the order

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Best* Books on Divorce for Men Made Easy! We've weeded through the book sellers' sites and honed in on the relevant books you're looking for on Divorce for Men - and we've made them easy to select and order!Simply click on the title and you're ready to go. You'll go straight to the order page, which will also contain more information on the book. If you're interested, just click the order button.

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Best* Books on Children and Divorce Made Easy! We've weeded through the book sellers' sites and honed in on the relevant books you're looking for on Children and Divorce - and we've made them easy to select and order!Simply click on the title and you're ready to go. You'll go straight to the order page, which will also contain more information on the book. If you're interested, just click the

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Best* Books on Starting Over After Divorce Made Easy! We've weeded through the book sellers' sites and honed in on the relevant books you're looking for on Starting Over After Divorce - and we've made them easy to select and order!Simply click on the title and you're ready to go. You'll go straight to the order page, which will also contain more information on the book. If you're interested,

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Best* Books on Recovering from Extra Marital Affairs, Adultery and Infidelity Made Easy! We've weeded through the book sellers' sites and honed in on the relevant books you're looking for on Recovering from Extra Marital Affairs, Adultery and Infidelity - and we've made them easy to select and order!Simply click on the title and you're ready to go. You'll go straight to the order page, which will

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Best Books on Divorce Made Easy! We've weeded through the book sellers' sites and honed in on the relevant books you're looking for on Divorce - and we've made them easy to select and order!Simply click on the title and you're ready to go. You'll go straight to the order page, which will also contain more information on the book. If you're interested, just click the order button. It's that

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Divorce, like any other traumatic or negative event in our lives, can leave us feeling bad or anxious or sick with worry or fearful of the unknown. If left unattended, feelings can take over to the point we feel covered over in them, like vines draped over an arbor. They color everything we do or say. They affect our energy levels, our outlook.If you are here at Divorce Daily Dollops, then that

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Depression is a word we each hear a lot about these days and is apparently affecting millions of Americans. Unfortunately, divorce and depression sometimes go hand in hand. With prescription sales of anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications hitting the financial roof there can be no doubt something is going on.But, what exactly is going on? Why are people so unhappy they are racing to their

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To cope effectively with the process of divorce you will need to take a moment and assess how self-reliant you are. Why? Because if you are not self-reliant, how can you hope to achieve the results that are really important to you?Webster defines self-reliant as, "...having confidence in and exercising one's own powers or judgment..."If you do not take ownership of your needs, the question then

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Many people express shock and surprise when their spouse asks for a divorce. “I didn’t see it coming,” is the anguished cry. It is a time of intense hurt and disbelief for those left behind.Yet, the warning signs that a relationship was not being built on a strong foundation have been there. They just were not recognized for what they were.Some of the more common warning signs that can spell doom

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Divorce isn't usually considered a time of blessings. What you are feeling these days doesn't feel like you have been given a blessing, does it? Rather it feels like a curse. And a painful one at that.But, who ever said blessings were warm and fuzzy things all the way through, from conception to birth? No one!Blessings, at their essence, are simply favorable outcomes to the individual

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To cope with all that divorce is going to ask of you, you need to begin preparing for disappointments you will experience along the way - on top of your heartache you may already be contending with.Every athlete knows they can't win every time. Yet, they try anyway, don't they? Every day they put in the practice hours. Before every event they pump themselves up and hit the field, court, sand,

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Self-confidence is one of the first victims of divorce. Everything we took for granted one day, is gone the next. Gone is our sense of "knowing" about our world. For some people this loss of confidence is so great they can be emotionally crippled by it, unable to move on. Or, at least they think so.But, self confidence can be regained. It's not irretrievable or irrevocable or irre-anything! Why?

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Rebuilding confidence is a task you should take on as soon as you nod your head and think, "I should."Whether you are in the early part of your divorce, where feelings are still raging, or you are further down the road, rebuilding confidence can begin wherever you are on the path.When we talk about confidence what do we mean? Well, for one thing, confidence is not about arrogance. It's not about

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So, when you hear the word "daily exercise", what group do you fall in? Will you reply with enthusiasm, "Oh, yes, everyday, rain or shine!" Or, are you one of those who inwardly cringes and selects a reply from a pack of quick denial cards, such as, "I don't have time for exercise!" Or, "I don't FEEL like it today." Or, "I don't like joining clubs and exercising in public." Or, "Gee, the timing

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Going through a divorce is, for many people, a monumental ordeal. Relationships and assets have to be untangled. Lives are changed. Pain and hurt blossom and linger.Because of the nature of divorce, and the demand it places on our emotions, we have to use great care in how we interpret our feelings. We have to make sure we do not let our emotions overrun our better judgment. We have to understand

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Even no contest divorces have issues to be resolved, even if it's just one attorney asking another, "Are there any issues to resolve before I drop this off at the courthouse?"If your divorce has you feeling like you're going in circles, and it's seemingly one issue after another, here are some ways in which you might handle them and thereby improve your chances of coping better:Tip 1: Start an "

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Whether you saw it coming or not, having your husband or wife ask you for a divorce is a mind-numbing experience. "What are you talking about?" we may ask in confusion and disbelief.If your husband, or wife, has asked you for a divorce, then you already know how you felt, and responded. By this time, you at your computer, your search typed in, your response to their request/statement is behind

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If you are just starting out on the path of divorce it is only right that you take steps to learn more about divorce. By educating yourself, you will avoid commonly made mistakes and come through on a better footing than someone who did not.Sadly, divorce is not such a rare or taboo topic that information is hard to come by. Indeed, just type in the word "divorce" into your favorite search engine

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You're almost through with a painful divorce, or maybe you are through, and yet having a difficult time moving on after it is final.When you lose a loved one, unexpectedly and abruptly, such as through an unwanted divorce, you grieve their loss no different than if they had passed. But, there is more to divorce than just the loss of our loved one, isn't there? We can still see them. We stand

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There's simply no getting around the fact that divorce is one of life's most painful experiences. It's a time of overwhelming emotions, where adrenaline rules, and anxiety abounds. Under the circumstances, with so much coming at us, it's not surprising to feel anxiety levels increase at particularly stressful moments. But, we don't have to be a victim of our emotions. Maintaining our mental

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When divorce or loss occurs, for most of us our road map instantly changes. Points that yesterday were clearly marked on the map suddenly disappear. We find ourselves at a figurative standstill, our engines idling in front of a sign post tilting precariously from the weight of a bajillion placards all pointing in different directions and to different destinations. We look up at the signs, but we

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The word "distraction" often gets a bum rap. You frequently see it in sentences with negative connotations, such as, "I plowed my car into Mr. Jones mailbox on Saturday, because I was distracted by the yard sale across the street."There is a good side, a positive side, to the meaning of distraction, however, that needs to be defended, especially as a tool in the coping tool box for people going

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Most of us have heard it said at least a hundred times, "A watched pot never boils."Never have truer words been said when it comes to describing the divorce process.But, why don't we change the pithy little observation around to suit our purposes, shall we?!"A watched divorce never seems to end and hurt less."When you are in the moment, and your focus is intent on something, it feels like time

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Getting a divorce is more than seeking legal advice and hiring a good divorce attorney. They go with the territory, certainly, and are a vital necessity, but they do not cover everything you need to know about what you are getting yourself involved in.No matter what side you are on in this matter, the spouse leaving, the spouse left behind, you are going to experience very strong emotions. Your

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When an event such as a divorce, or loss, happens to us, it often envelopes us within a crushing sense of self-awareness, our pain and hurt and dismay takes a front seat. Our inner mind engages in a constant internal dialogue that is challenging to overcome. Daily we battle between ourselves and our feelings.One of the ways to fight the sadness, if even for a few hours respite, is to get involved

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One of the harsher realities of separation and divorce is its lingering nature. It's not quick and it's not easy. There's a daily awareness of it. If divorce was something we were not anticipating, or desired, then many of us are going to feel, at a minimum, pain, hurt, and disbelief. That is only natural and to be expected. These feelings, as well as others like grief and anger, are generally

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A friend calls, desperate for help, so you rearrange your schedule to be there for them.Your child comes to you weeping because children down the street made fun of him. You pull your child to you to soothe and comfort them. You tell your child things to help make them feel better.It's Monday and your clock alarm rings. You go to work early because your boss needs help on a presentation today,

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When it comes down to it, we receive news we don't want to hear all the time!*Your electric or gas bill comes in and it's 30% higher than last month...ouch.*Your child brings home a request from their teacher for 45 cupcakes neededby the next morning; it's 5 o'clock in the afternoon when you're told.*Your boss tells you there have been rumors of lay offs in your company.*A police officer pulls

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While we are moving through a painful experience such as separation or divorce or loss, and trying to cope with all its demands, it is important to resist seeing only our pain and hurt. We need to be mindful we are a part of something bigger.Yosemite National Park is a large, spectacular place. Filled with wonders - majestic mountains, showering geysers, monumental trees, sparkling water, shady

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You are standing in a line outside the post office and your arms are filled with packages. It starts to rain. You have an umbrella, having watched the news this morning and hearing it might rain today. But the umbrella is in your coat pocket, its handle sticking out; and you can't reach it. Nor can you put down your boxes, because the one on the bottom will get wet and perhaps be easily crushed

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We've all seen him, the guy on the street, oblivious to all except his imaginary "friend"; engaged in what seems to be a quite animated conversation! We watch as the people who draw near him on the sidewalk take a wide berth as they pass, politely trying to avoid running into the friend. Or, perhaps, instead, they are trying to be less accessible should the guy stop his chat and take a lunge at

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Separation and divorce are about loss. They are about change.Hard words for us - loss and change. We are not uncomfortable with them. We will often first deny these conditions, before we deal with them. Especially if they are painful.Conversely, if your boss tells you that you are receiving a $5,000 bonus for superbly handling a difficult customer yesterday, you will gladly take this change

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You're feeling down, you're lacking energy, and someone spouts, "...all you need is a good dose of positive thinking to make everything right as rain...".Does this make you want to scream? Was that a red flag they just waved under your nose? Do you think they can't possible understand, that it's not that easy under the circumstances.Or did what they say just make you feel worse, because you don't

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Why is minding your thoughts important to you? Because of three powerful words: thoughts equal actions. Oh, I know when most people hear the words, "thoughts equal actions", they think, "Well, duh?!" But, then they go and do something foolish or embarrassing or incomprehensible and then they ask, "What was I thinking?!"Well, duh?!Obviously there's more to it than, well, the obvious!In reality,

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Sometimes, when we are under a lot of stress, like when we are going through a divorce, and the noise and demands are flooding in, we are not at our strongest and most capable. At these times we need to be willing to say to ourselves, and others, kindly and with compassion, "Later, please."Have you ever stood in line and heard an adult say to a child, "...not right now..."? Or, "...hush, ask me

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Oliver Wendell Holmes said, "The mind, once expanded to the dimensions of larger ideas, never returns to its original size."This point of view, a truism of great importance, is of particular relevance to you as you cope with your divorce.Do you remember when you first found out there was no tooth fairy, and accepted it as fact? After that point could you have left anything under your pillow with

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I once read a story about a French aristocrat who wore all of his finery as he was being taken to the guillotine during the French Revolution. When someone from the crowd called out "why do you bother with your finery", the aristocrat was quoted as replying, "Because. When one is dressed like a king, one does not yap like a dog."Ah, yes, we know of this concept. Today we refer to it as "grace

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In times of stress, feelings and emotions can run high. Certainly a divorce qualifies as a stressful situation.If a volcano can not vent, if it can not dissipate its internal pressures, it explodes and changes itself and the landscape around it.There will be days when the feelings well up and fill you - and like a volcano you, too, will need to dissipate these building internal pressures, safely

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Divorce isn't a quick event, like snapping off and on a flashlight. Divorce is a process, and like any process, it is something that has to be moved through. It has a beginning, a middle, and an end.As your divorce moves forward, each point along the continuum may have an intensity to it, or a time factor, but no matter how you feel about it, move forward it will. And as it moves forward so will

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